Opening Up

Submitted by PAUL C on April 17 2013 11:04 PM

My usually chatty 6 year old, won’t talk to me about something he perceives as bad that happened at school the other day. How am I supposed to help, if he won’t talk about it?

I tried every approach imaginable. I got nothing – except an increasingly irritable child that will just not open up.

I guess that’s the point. Maybe I am not supposed to help.  As he said himself ‘it’s over – I can handle it’. Where he got that terminology from is another mystery to me. So for now, I am going to trust that he can handle it and turn off my over-bearing mother switch. . .

I wonder if as parents we try to solve our kid’s problems for them instead of letting them sort it out for themselves.  Maybe that’s why kids aren’t as resilient as they used to be?  I don’t know.  It seems natural to want to help. It is hard to step back and see them suffer, but maybe it’s good practice for life’s hurdles ahead.

What do you think?  Should we be trying to help, even if they tell us not too?  If so, what tips can you share to get a hesitant kid to talk about what is bothering them? Or do we trust that they are capable of handling some things.


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